Every mother has friends that don’t have children. We hang out and shop and pretend we don’t have enormous responsibilities. We live vicariously through them and we always seem to get great advice! Unfortunately the advice is usually for people without kids lol…..at least that’s the irony for me. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE being able to have someone like that in my life, it just makes me laugh sometimes how different we each envision certain things… for example;
A friend of mine once said to try to relieve some stress I should “try and have a hot bubble bath and have a glass of wine!”
I’m sure when she envisioned it in her head it was amazing but here’s how it went down for me when i tried it. I waited until I had finished all my motherly duties and started a hot lavender bubble bath. Poured myself a big glass of red wine(on ice of course) and closed the bathroom door to enjoy my moment of relaxation. I got into the tub and let the hot water help me escape and no sooner did I reach that place when there was a knock at the door ” mommy what are you doing?” …. I rolled my eyes and said ” I’m having a bath sweetie….ill be out later” hoping that would be the end of it I tried to get back to my stress free moment but of course that wasn’t the end….I had forgotten to lock the door and realized that when Julia flung open the door. I jumped with fright and spilled my red wine on ice down my chest! I screamed “what are you doing !?” She says “oops I forgot but I have to poop mom!” Obviously there’s another washroom she could use but she could clearly see I was trying to relax and was having non of it! Once I kicked her out AGAIN I tried to get back to relaxing. I knocked over a candle in the corner of the tub and it fell in the water so at that point i was over it…then I went to get out of the tub and slipped on a toy. I didn’t quite fall but at that point I realized my childless friends hot bubble bath and wine scenario was a crock and I would have been better off going to sleep earlier lol
Another example; a friend of mine once said ” why don’t you try and dress up more!” That one was hilarious to me😂 why would I want to dress up for my kids? Like really….if I’m gonna dress up it better be because Steve is taking me out on a date lol….for the amount of things I do a day it would be weird for me to be in a dress in full makeup and hair. I mean really….can you imagine the amount of clothes id go through? Again….my childless friends envision things completely different.
In the end being a mother has it’s ups and downs and yes it’s very different than having no children. We do things differently but in the end we are all the same. We are women and as such enjoy gossiping, laughing, judging, and talking about eachother. We need eachother and some people might say they don’t enjoy it….but having friends whether they be childless or not is essential to our lives and boy does their advice make me laugh sometimes lol😂😂💖